Monday, 28 September 2015

Harry's 3 Month Update

He's no longer a newborn.  It's been 13 weeks and Harry is officially an infant. I am the mother of an infant child...shit.

For this post and all future update entries I'm dropping the weekly format I've used previously because Harry's changes seem to happen less rapidly than they did in his early few weeks of life. 

I'm keeping the 'My Recovery' section for now though mainly because my hair is still falling out and therefore I class this occurrence as definitely not 'back to normal'. Plus I want to keep track of how things have gone down as accurately as possible, like, for future reference and that. Hope you like the new format anyway. It's a bit like my pregnancy update posts.

Right, let's start.

Weight? As of 11 weeks old, butt naked and by the health visitor's reliable scales Harry weighed 13lb. Last week I improvised weighing him on the bathroom scales and he weighed 14lb. Either way he's out of size 2 nappies and into 3's. Bummer, you get way less in a pack for the same amount of money. 

Feeding? I'm still exclusively breast feeding Harry and enjoying every second of being able to eat a few extra cakes here and there with absolutely no consequences on the numbers on my own scales. What an absolute DREAM. It is difficult having sole responsibility for feeding at times though. Just now and then it would be nice to nip out for a couple of hours without worrying about the bub waking up and being without food. I used to express in the beginning, but recently I really can't be bothered with the faff and the mess of it all. All told, I'd take sole feeding responsibilities over the effort it takes to express, at the minute.
Baby groups? I'm borderline socially hostile so no baby groups yet. I promise to change this by the next update. I know this is unacceptable parenting behaviour.

Sleeping through the night? When he's game, Harry can sleep 7 hours from 10pm - 5am. When he's not, he'll wake up 2-3 times in the night. As I mentioned in our 2 Month Update post, when he wakes before 5am, I offer a dummy rather than a feed in the hope that it's just comfort he's after and as a means to teach him that milk isn't always going to be offered straight away during the night. Obviously if he cries I feed him but usually the dummy does the trick. He is unpredictable though and I wouldn't class him as a 'good sleeper'. People always ask, 'is he a good sleeper'? No, no he's not, god dam it.

Clothing Size? He's busting out of his 0-3 clothes and hitting the 3-6 and 4-6 month gear. Now we've left the small stuff behind I'm left with so much sorting to do. Rotating baby clothes is a full time job, and honestly, it makes you realise that it's not really worth spending much on little clothes. Charity shop steals are a better way forward. Most of Harry's things that aren't second hand already have literally been worn twice.

New Abilities/Developments? He's trying to roll which is pretty cool as I didn't really know that rolling was even a phase of development. Don't ask me how I thought they got on their fronts to crawl, I sort of envisioned it happening all in a one-er. He also seems to drool now. Like there's lots of it. Why do they go from no drool to so much drool so quickly? And what is the drool for? Are there teeth coming, I don't know??

Nicknames? Primarily BubbyRoo, although derivatives include BabaRoo, BabaGanoosh, and Babooshka...

My Recovery
As I mentioned above, hair loss is still happening and doesn't seem to be slowing down any. When does it end? Can anyone tell me? It's pretty much the last postpartum symptom I have left to report but it feels like it will never stop. Please tell me it does. I don't want to be left with 4 strands of hair. 

Monday, 21 September 2015

5 Things I'd Tell My Pre-Baby Self

Just a small collection of lessons learned so far. Former self, take heed.

1. Don't wear that midi dress to your cousins wedding mate, he won't take the bottle and you'll be in the disabled toilet breastfeeding, essentially naked, all night long.


2. Before you spend £50 on that 'boho mama' baby sling, ask yourself this:

Does unravelling a 5m long stretch of material, wrestling it into one of 5 recommended yet highly complex 'baby safe sling tie formations' only to end up tangled up, stressed out and pissed off sound like fun to you?


3. All that pre-baby ironing? Babies don't give a crap about whether or not their get-ups are smooth. Also, neither does anyone else.


4.Remember how adamant you were that you weren't going to turn into one of 'those mums' who made 'incessant' cooing noises over their kids and spammed Instagram and Facebook with tons of baby pictures? 


5. Finally, you know those 8 hour+  blocks of sleep you've been enjoying for...all your life? And them lie-ins?



Wednesday, 2 September 2015

2 Month Postpartum Update

Week 5

At 5 weeks old I took Harry on his first road trip to meet his extended family. He met his great grandma and granddad, his great nanna and lots of great aunties, uncles, cousins and second cousins. 

My family live in Lancashire and Lincolnshire, so I learned some pretty valuable lessons whilst travelling coast to coast and back again with a one month old. From changing nappies on the front seat of the car to breast feeding at the side of the road, we've pretty much done it all now. 

Going away with a new baby early and getting on with things is essentially a baptism of fire when it comes to learning the baby care ropes, but it was the best thing ever for helping me build confidence as a new parent. Multiple sink baths and improvised sleeping arrangements later,|Harry and I can cope with pretty much anything.  

In terms of development, Harry can hold things in his fists, though not without persuasion. Little rings are pretty effective for grip practice :)

Week 6 

Back home and Harry started to smile on cue much more often during week 6. There's definitely something special about a baby smile...what could possibly be so amusing to someone with no concept of amusement?? 

Harry gets weighed at his 6 week check and is now 11lb 2oz. Tank.

Week 7

Harry starts to sleep for longer chunks of time this week as we establish something of a routine (I use this word loosely as I still in fact have little control over the kid's agenda). It starts with 4 hours, then 5 in a row and I start to see the light.

Week 8

The week of SLEEP. First 6 hours in a row and then 7- 10pm to 5am. I literally forgot what it was like to not see 3am and life feels great. I put it down to a combination of things, including his age and weight, but offering a dummy during the night instead of a feed really helped Harry to break his association at 1am and 3am with feedings. If you'd like to read more about the tactics I've adopted to help my newborn sleep through the night, head back in a week or two as I'll be writing a full post on our progress at 12 weeks old.

My Recovery

If you read my first postpartum update you'll know that my initial recovery went pretty smoothly. Fast forward four more weeks and I'm feeling almost back to normal. 

Post partum hair loss is a total bitch and I had thought for a while that I was going to get to keep this thick wig I've developed. Sadly, this is not the case.

I'm still exclusively breastfeeding Harry and so I'm finding I need to eat a little extra than I did pre-pregnancy to maintain my usual weight. Pass the Battenberg mate. 

Catch up with you at our 3 month update in a couple of weeks.